Mommy Time

I am a stay at home mother of three cute little curly haired boys. They make me laugh everyday. I am so grateful that God chose me to be their Mommy. I love seeing them smile and watching them act out action scenes from their favorite super hero movies. And I just…….I just need a moment!


Ok so here’s the amazing thing about being a stay at home mom: it will drive you crazy if you let it! Facts! Don’t let Linda the amazing pastry chef mom who’s Insta looks like an editorial spread have you fooled. Her hair does not look like that most days. As amazing as being able to be at home with my boys is, I now know I need some Mommy Time. 


Let’s back this up… Last year was really tough for us. It was truly the best of times and the worst of times. We were in a new city where we knew no one and surprise to us, my husband would be on travel every other week and I would be by myself a lot. I always say how awesome Single Parents are, because they do it all, and often by themselves. Blessed are we that have family and a significant other who helps us with our children. 


Anywho… There I was by myself caring for my three boys, sun up to sun down, doing my mommy thang, and doing what my husband usually does. Even when he was in town I was determined to be the wife and mother who did it all! I am not only a stay at home mother of a 5, 3, and 1 year old; I work from home, homeschool, and am in school myself sometimes! I took zero breaks! Breaks are for the weak I thought. I’m supposed to be the strong black woman, a woman who can handle it all. After all, at least I have a man, and at least I have the option to stay at home. I was a flickering light that soon burned out. 


Fast forward…what is Mommy Time, and why do you need it? Mommy Time is a moment in your day, week, month, that you take to exhale. In that time you do whatever makes you happy and allows you to fully relax. Take a nap, pray, read, paint, hit up Target, go on a HGTV adventure on your couch with some ice cream imagining you’re one of those people with the huge budget who apparently have some made up job that we all wish we did. Mommy Time for me is a moment to be girly. I live in a house full of boys, and as much as I love to wrestle, play video games, and run outside; I need some time to let my wrists hang! 


I go to the nail salon, go shopping in all the stores I know my kids would get kicked out of (by me), I eat treats I don’t have to share, and sometimes I get that good on ya belly nap under the covers with rain sounds playing in the background. Now, all this is awesomesauce, buuutttt the guilt.


I remember writing an article a few years ago about Mom Guilt. It’s so real and we all feel it. It is, as if I’m not staring in my kids faces at all times while folding laundry and stirring a pot, I’m sucking as a mother. Know this: the time you take to better yourself and rest your mind, is refining the quality of time you will spend with your kids and husband. After a bowl of cereal I’m ready to sing all the Nick Jr. theme songs for my boys. After my nails are did, I’m ready to… well I do have 3 kids…


Hey you momma, make it a priority to take some time off for you. You are not being selfish, your kids will survive (as my husband likes to remind me), and you do not have to feel guilt or shame in your exhale moment. Whether you are a working parent, single parent, or married; take time. Schedule your Mommy Time right now and let me know how it went! ​

​❤️Vyse